Suffering

Are you struggling?

You will know if something is not quite right. Trust your instincts for once.

I have the skills to help with most common problems that cause us suffering in our daily lives.

How can I help?

Getting your mind serviced is a great investment.  After all, we all want to feel better.

These are just a few of the common everyday issues I work with.  You are not alone 

  • Depression

    Depresssion can be

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  • Trauma & PTSD

    Being a victim is lonely.

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  • Anxiety

    Anxiety can litteraly tie your physical body in knots

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  • Hurting yourself

    Suicidal thoughts?  Self harm?   about wanting to end your life?

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  • Mid Life Crisis

    Feeling as though life is passing you by? 

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  • Grief and Bereavement

    Grief is so personal.  There is nor right way or wrong way to grieve.  Everyone will at some stage encounter grief.

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  • Sex and Libido

    Wanting and desiring sex is instinctive in every animal in the animal kingdom

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  • Relationships

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  • Addictions

    Repeating the same patterns can create an addiction within 28 days!

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  • Self Worth

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  • General Wellbeing

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  • Bereaved by Suicide

    There is nothing more painful than losing a loved one to suicide.  

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Anxiety

Anxiety

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Anxiety and anxiety disorders are incredibly common. It is said that 1 in 3 people experience at least one anxiety disorder over the course of their lifetime. And more often than not, someone that suffers from one disorder will suffer from more than one.

And there are quite a few mental health disorders that fall under the greater anxiety umbrella:

  • Phobias
  • Social anxiety
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Obsessive Compulsion Disordet (OCD)
  • Generalized anxiety disorder
  • panic attacks
  • agoraphobia
  • Childhood seperation disorder.

Most anxiety isn’t a disorder at all — anxiety is just fear about something that’s yet to come. Fear is adaptive; it’s what tells us to run away from the bad guy, to stay out of oncoming traffic or to step back from the mountain edge. While fear is what we experience in these moments, anxiety is more anticipatory — it’s the worry, the uneasy apprehension felt ahead of time.

Evolutionarily speaking, it can be helpful to expect and prepare for something bad that’s on its way, or take steps to avoid a dangerous situation. But our brains have been a long time in the making, and the threats (or perceived threats via thoughts) we experience in the modern world are very different from what our ancestors would’ve been up against. This leads to a lot of false alarms.  Have our brains evolved as much as the sheer volume of things to think about have evolved?

All anxiety disorders are essentially about an ineffective coping with a fear, especially when the behaviours a person is engaging in to cope (eg excess worry, excess safety behaviors, etc) are hurting. What sets the different disorders apart is what that fear stimulus is (a past trauma, a specific phobia, general life) and what the response is (flashbacks, compulsive behaviors, excessive worrying).

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Trauma and PTSD

Trauma and PTSD

The defenition of Trauma in the dictionary is: A deeply distressing or disturbing experience.

When most people talk about trauma, they usually refer to the extreme effects of trauma called PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).  If we break this down it basically means the stress you are left with after (post) a traumatic event.

And this traumatic event is relative to the moment you experience it.  Too often we minimize things that have happened to us in childhood because we are looking at them through 'adult eyes'.

In the therapy industry, Trauma is divided into three main types: Acute, Chronic, and Complex.

NB: This page is still under construction


Love Transformed

A short poem that highlights the innocent way trauma can affect who we really are

A boy was loved when his father hit him hard

so his own love transformed

his heart standing guard.

 

A girl was loved when her mother left

in spite her own love transformed

her heart ready to fight.

 

A boy was loved when his mother abused him

his own love transformed

his heart always refusing.

 

A girl was loved when her father had gin

her own love transformed

she'd let nobody in.

 

Unable to recognize that their love was insane

they grew up to be parents to add to the chain

another generation of unbelievable pain.


Useful Information about Trauma

1. Gabor Mate Docufilm: The Wisdom of Trauma 2021

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