Hello, my name is Andy and it is very hard to know exactly what has brought you here or what it is you maybe looking for?  It is probably very likely that you know that something is not quite 'right' in your life at the moment and you want to feel better than you do right now.  

It usually starts with an introductory chat where we can explore what you would like to change and I can explain how we could approach that together.  There is no one size fits all.  It is probably best that you call me for a quick and confidential chat, and I totally get how hard it is to reach out for the first time.  If it helps, I do not believe that anyone is broken....just simply out of alignment and that is usually with themselves. 

For sure Covid continues to wreak havoc on our lives with these restrictions that force us to supress our natural selves, our desires, needs and wants...against the inherent will of our bodies so we end with this internal mental conflict!  Plus...the unforgiving uncertainty of when will this damn thing end??

I am a unique therapist in as much as I offer both conventional Counselling as well as alternative therapies.  Please browse around.  It is paramount that you wholeheartedly trust me to ensure you fully harness our time together.

Sometimes you will be at your lowest level. Maybe you no longer answer texts or stop watching your favourite TV shows etc.  Sometimes it is a crisis, trauma, loss or an emergency where you find yourself ending up at your lowest level. It is here that you realise you are suffering. Sometimes suffering for so long!  And you thought it is "just the way I feel".

Eventually you notice how you have been acting. or acted and you say my goodness, I have been suffering for 'x' many years!! ...I didn't know it was suffering or guilt, it is "just the way I felt".

Your feelings help guide your sails as you charter through life.  I simply want you to feel better, to have a happier life. 

Is therapy easy?

This really depends on you and how deep you may want to explore.  There is likely to be some trauma from childhood that is affecting you today.  It is also very possible that some traumas are hidden deep inside you.  

I can offer you a safe space to be vulnerable, to share your inner most darkest fears, your deepest secrets and to decipher any mental ghosts that haunt you.  I will cast no judgement as I know this is the real you behind any facade you present to close friends and family.  The uncomfortable response you may be feeling is an innocent natural defence mechanism you once created to keep you safe as you realised you were vulnerable in this world.  This defence mechanism is typically a 'felt sense' by way of an 'unease' or a disturbing feeling in your body somewhere, usually your stomach or heart areas.  

You may have tried to share your vulnerabilities with a close person in your past, only for it to be mocked, taken out of context or kicked right back at you in your face! ...Consequently burying your vulnerability even further deeper inside you.

No matter how deep we go, I assure you that everything you say would be held in the strictest most secure way possible. If it gets too tough for you, then we stop and we reassess how you feel.  Your psychological safety is paramount.

What Therapy is Best?

This is a very important question, after all, you certainly "want the right man for the job".  This is so important for you so please do lots of background research on your therapist.  Unless you trust them, it simply will not work as well as it could.

My style of Counselling is principally known as 'Person Centred' psychotherapy. My skill is to be your 'wingman'...To help you to fathom and find the answers you need from deep inside you.  This unique counselling style never assumes the counsellor knows what is best for you unlike say CBT or psychodynamic counselling.  They are far too pretentious.  Instead, I offer you a 'guide', an 'equal' for you to be who you truly are without judgement. I have very safe hands.

Please do your research.  And whoever you decide upon, please make sure they belong to a registered body as this gives you so much more personal protection and care.  If you are unsure about anything or need some personalised advice, then please give me a quick call or send me a message.  

Can you help me?

Yes, very probably.  There isn't anything much that we cannot talk about in the therapy room...from sexuality and trauma, to binge drinking, getting high, relationship foibles and doing daft things. Maybe you self harm or feel you cannot go on any longer with life!   

...I will be able to help you, even if I recommend you to another organisation or support service that is better placed to help your immediate need.  For example, phobias are not really my bag.  So I would explain, for example, why hypnotherapy could be a better therapy option for you.

I specialise in offering counselling to those affected by suicide.  There is no tougher form of grief than this.  Check out my 'About me' section for further background to me.  Here I list some of the support groups I manage and organisations I work with on a regular basis.

It usually starts with a chat, so please call me now.  It's never too late to live happily ever after 

By the time you reach 18 years old, you have walked your experience of life through over 157,000 live hours already!!  How many hours of life have you consumed by the time you are 45!!

As a Therapist I will...

Remind you that you are not broken

Give you room to access your own wisdom

Support you in figuring out what to do

Recognise that you are the expert on your own life

Remember that only you know what is best for you

Honour that I do not know it all

Collaborate with you on how to make the hard stuff easier

As a Therapist I Will Not...

Try to fix you

Give you advice

Tell you what to do

Pretend I know more about you than you

Assume what is best for you

Have all the answers

Make the hard stuff go away

What Are Feelings?

All humans are moved by the bodily activations known as emotions.  The bodily activation produces chemicals.  You may recognise the common types; adrenaline, serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin etc.

These emotions organise our instinctive animal behavior and we become conscious of these physical activations in our body and we label them as feelings.

Becoming aware of our feelings gives us a sense of our core self and the basis of our unique identity. Additionally these feelings allow us to know others and to be intimate. And culturally, feelings empower us to have shared values which we express through laws, religions, and art etc. Feelings allow for the inter-generational transmission of culture by which we connect to the accumulated consciousness of humankind.

Feelings are the fundamental way we make sense of the world. They tell us what we want and what we do not, what gives us pleasure and what gives us pain. They mobilise us to act adaptively on our own behalf, to pursue our goals in life  Like a GPS unit, feelings tell us where we are, where we want to go, and how to get there.

Where do you feel things?

Feelings are often associated with physical reactions. So, terror can send chills down your spine and love can leave you weak in the knees.

A recent study has linked specific emotions to physical sensations. Researchers tested emotional responses in hundreds of subjects and then created maps identifying locations in the body where emotions cause physical changes.

Numerous studies have established that our emotion systems prepare us to meet challenges encountered in our environment by adjusting the activation of our nervous systems (predominantly the cardiovascular, skeletomuscular, neuroendocrine, and autonomic nervous systems).

Thanks for this research by a) Department of Biomedical Engineering and Computational Science and b) Brain Research Unit, O. V. Lounasmaa Laboratory, School of Science, Aalto University, FI-00076, Espoo, Finland; c) Turku PET Centre, University of Turku, FI-20521, Turku, Finland; and d) Human Information Processing Laboratory, School of Social Sciences and Humanities, University of Tampere, FI-33014, Tampere, Finland