Hello, my name is Andy. It is very hard to know exactly what has brought you here or what it is you may be looking for? ...Perhaps something is not quite 'right' in your life at the moment and you want to feel better than you do right now.
We usually start with an introductory chat where we can chat about what you would like to change and I can explain how we could best approach that. There is no one size fits all. I totally get how hard it is to reach out for the first time so please also feel free to email me.
I am an established and unique therapist in as much as I offer both conventional Counselling as well as other therapies. Please browse around. It is paramount that you wholeheartedly trust me to ensure you fully harness our time together.
I can offer you a safe space to be vulnerable, to share your inner most darkest fears, your deepest secrets and to decipher any mental ghosts that haunt you. I will cast no judgement as I know this is the real you behind any mask you may present to close friends and family.
You may have tried to share your vulnerabilities with a close person in your past, only for it to be mocked, taken out of context or kicked right back at you in your face! ...Consequently burying your vulnerability even further deeper inside you.
No matter how deep we go, I assure you that everything you say is held in the strictest confidence. If it gets too tough for you, then we stop and we reassess how you feel. Your psychological safety is essential.
This is a very important question, after all, you certainly "want the right man for the job". This is so important for you so please do lots of background research on your therapist. Unless you trust them, it simply will not work as well as it could.
My style of Counselling is principally known as 'Person Centred' psychotherapy. My skill is to be your 'wingman'...To help you to fathom and find the answers you need from deep inside you. This unique counselling style never assumes the counsellor knows what is best for you unlike say CBT or psychodynamic counselling. Instead, I offer you a 'guide', an 'equal' for you to be who you truly are without judgement. I have very safe hands.
Please do your research. And whoever you decide upon, please make sure they belong to a registered body as this gives you so much more personal protection and care. If you are unsure about anything or need some personalised advice, then please give me a quick call or send me a message.
Yes, very probably. There isn't anything much that we cannot talk about in the therapy room...from sexuality and trauma, to binge drinking, getting high, relationship foibles and doing daft things. Maybe you self harm or feel you cannot go on any longer with life!
...I will be able to help you, even if I recommend you to another organisation or support service that is better placed to help your immediate need. For example, phobias are not really my bag. So, I would explain, for example, why hypnotherapy could be a better therapy option for you.
I specialise in offering counselling to those affected by suicide. There is no tougher form of grief than this. Check out my 'About me' section for further background to me. Here I list some of the support groups I manage and organisations I work with on a regular basis.
It usually starts with a chat, so please call me now.
Remind you that you are not broken
Give you room to access your own wisdom
Support you in figuring out what to do
Recognise that you are the expert on your own life
Remember that only you know what is best for you
Honour that I do not know it all
Collaborate with you on how to make the hard stuff easier
Try to fix you
Give you advice
Tell you what to do
Pretend I know more about you than you
Assume what is best for you
Have all the answers
Make the hard stuff go away
All humans are moved by the bodily activations known as emotions. The bodily activation produces chemicals. You may recognise the common types; adrenaline, serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin etc.
These emotions organise our instinctive animal behaviour and we become conscious of these physical activations in our body and we label them as feelings.
Becoming aware of our feelings gives us a sense of our core self and the basis of our unique identity. Additionally, these feelings allow us to know others and to be intimate. And culturally, feelings empower us to have shared values which we express through laws, religions, and art etc. Feelings allow for the inter-generational transmission of culture by which we connect to the accumulated consciousness of humankind.
Feelings are the fundamental way we make sense of the world. They tell us what we want and what we do not, what gives us pleasure and what gives us pain. They mobilise us to act adaptively on our own behalf, to pursue our goals in life like a GPS unit, feelings tell us where we are, where we want to go, and how to get there.
Where do you feel things?
Feelings are often associated with physical reactions. So, terror can send chills down your spine and love can leave you weak in the knees.
A recent study has linked specific emotions to physical sensations. Researchers tested emotional responses in hundreds of subjects and then created maps identifying locations in the body where emotions cause physical changes.
Numerous studies have established that our emotion systems prepare us to meet challenges encountered in our environment by adjusting the activation of our nervous systems (predominantly the cardiovascular, skeletomuscular, neuroendocrine, and autonomic nervous systems).
Thanks for this research by a) Department of Biomedical Engineering and Computational Science and b) Brain Research Unit, O. V. Lounasmaa Laboratory, School of Science, Aalto University, FI-00076, Espoo, Finland; c) Turku PET Centre, University of Turku, FI-20521, Turku, Finland; and d) Human Information Processing Laboratory, School of Social Sciences and Humanities, University of Tampere, FI-33014, Tampere, Finland